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Beauty For Ashes

I was only five weeks along when my husband and I miscarried. We were just about to hit our one year anniversary. I remember feeling numb, confused, unsure of what to do next, and flat out sad. I remember even having a hard time praying. So, I prayed The Lord’s Prayer as a way of still staying connected with God during my grieving. I knew I needed to stay connected no matter how difficult it was. I knew GOD was the only thing that could get me through. Eventually The Lord’s Prayers turned into prayers of thanksgiving, and before I knew it I was back to prayer warrior mode.

Healing isn’t just a process, but it is also a journey. It’s a journey that can bring renewal, peace, and wisdom. Going through multiple miscarriages has been some of the most painful moments in my life. As painful as they have been, I wouldn’t change this journey for anything. Not because I wouldn’t love to have our babies alive and well, but because God’s love has grown me in ways that I cannot even explain in words. I’m not who I used to be, nor is my relationship with God. My relationship with Him has grown LEAPS and BOUNDS. I’ve learned to seek FIRST the Kingdom of GOD and to find peace and joy in all of life’s ups and downs. I honestly can’t say I would have learned these heavy lessons if it weren’t for the pain I have endured through the years of grief and loss.

I think that’s the beautiful thing about God, right? His ability to bring beauty out of ashes.

“He will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair.” Isaiah 61:3

If you are finding yourself in a place of despair, remember that joy comes in the morning. His beauty WILL shine through. Take a deep breath, be still, and know He is God. It is in the stillness that we can truly know who He is.

Here is a prayer if you are finding yourself unsure of what to pray. It’s simple and true.

“Dear Lord,

Thank you. Thank you for the life I carried inside of me, even if it was just for a moment. Thank you for choosing me to be my child’s mommy. I will forever love, cherish, and pray for him/her. Thank you for Your Goodness! Thank You for being near.

In Jesus Name,

Amen”

I am praying for you sister. Through the pain. Through the healing. You are loved.

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Life is Still Happening

This month marks the one year anniversary of the loss of Baby Addis #3. In the midst of COVID-19 and the rocky state of the world, I wondered if I had any place to mourn or grieve our baby. To be honest, my heart felt a little guilty for being sad and that guilt turned into anger…… why can’t I remember and mourn the loss of our precious one? Why must my heart stop loving?

As I prayed this morning and listened to worship music from online church services – I realized….. the enemy wants life to stop, worship to stop, praying to stop, gathering to stop…..but life doesn’t stop. Our hearts aren’t going to stop loving, grieving and holding on to HOPE. We aren’t going to stop gathering and uniting together for Christ’s name! And God doesn’t stop meeting us where we are.

This isn’t going to be a long blog. I just wanted to encourage you to keep loving. Keep hoping. And yes, keep grieving and healing. YOU have permission to think of your loss. You have permission to grieve your loss. You have permission to love. You have permission to desire human contact when we’re asked to avoid it. Don’t allow the enemy to make you feel guilty for these things. THIS is how God created you – to love, desire, grieve, need, hope, and gather. The truth of the matter is that LIFE is still happening. We can’t get so focused on the state of the world that we ignore LIFE or ignore how God is moving and working.

The flowers are still blooming. The birds are still singing. The earth is still shaking at the sound of His voice.

Stay safe. Lean into God during these uncertain times. And know that He is right there with you.

“I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust.” Psalm 91:2

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Five Things This Spring

I know it’s just early March and lots of us are still in the winter weather season…..BUT I want us to think about the beauty of spring! It’s the season where all the dead trees come to life. It’s the beautiful time where we remember the exquisite resurrection of Jesus Christ. It’s a season of fresh flowers, fresh air and a fresh perspective.

Many of us barely made it through the holidays. Let’s face it, Christmas is a BEAUTIFUL season, but for many people it is a time of sadness and remembering what we don’t have and were so close to embracing – a child. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think we’re all just gloom and doom during the holidays……BUT I know the reality is that it’s a season where we feel the pang of grief at unexpected moments throughout the season.

BUT GOD….. Spring is here. He has risen. I’m SO excited for a fresh start into a beautiful new season.

Who is with me here?

I want to challenge each of us to come up with five different things we can do this spring season and really allow God to work in the new! My five things will be:

  1. Allowing myself one day a week where I either ride my bike or take a long walk with the pups to just get some fresh air, time alone with the Lord and enjoy the spring season.
  2. Visit my mama more. I really need to do this more often.
  3. Write more. I have so much on my heart to get out into the world and I don’t make time for it.
  4. Make more time for friendships; take more coffee talk breaks and enjoy sisterhood a bit more.
  5. Turn up the music loudly, open up the windows and clean and dance for an afternoon. I definitely need do this WAY MORE OFTEN!

So, let’s give SPRING a chance y’all! Let’s stop and smell the flowers and remember that this life isn’t meant for us to hold on to the grief forever. Let’s allow this to be a season of skipping through the garden knowing that God is good. I’m cheering you on and would LOVE to hear what your five things will be!

xoxo,

Cryssie

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Self-Compassion in 2020

“BUT THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT IS LOVE, JOY, PEACE, LONG-SUFFERING, GENTLENESS, GOODNESS, FAITH,” GALATIANS 5:22-23

I’m not one to tell people what they should or shouldn’t do in life……but…..self-compassion should be one of your most important goals of 2020. It is something a lot of us do not understand, especially if you are a busy wife or busy mom. Life doesn’t stop for our grief and the holidays can leave us feeling exhausted and sometimes sad. I want you to take some time to show yourself some self-compassion.

What is self-compassion? It is simply loving yourself the way you would love a good friend during grief.

Simply ask yourself, “How would you treat a friend experiencing pregnancy loss?”

TREAT YOURSELF LIKE A GOOD FRIEND. It is easy for us to support and love another woman going through pregnancy loss, but when it comes to ourselves, we might be angry, bitter, and resentful at ourselves. Today, focus on giving yourself compassion the way you would give a good friend. Think about a time you helped a friend go through something difficult. How did you speak with them? Did you do something special for him or her? What would you have done for them if you were completely responsible for their well-being? And then flip that around to yourself. It’s so important for you to create a spirit of inner love.

Get in tune with how you are feeling about yourself in this very moment and be honest with yourself. Are you at peace? Are you angry? When you think about YOU, what thoughts come into your mind?

If you knew a friend that was feeling negative about herself, what would you tell her? What words would you say to affirm her? 

Affirm and encourage, and above all, be honest with yourself!

Mark 12:31 tells us – “The second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself. No other commandment is greater than these.”

Loving yourself isn’t selfish – it’s important! When we truly love ourselves, we are leaning into God more, getting the healing and freedom we need and allowing ourselves to be the BEST version of ourself that we can be! 

That is my prayer for you as you walk into a new year, to love yourself the way you do others. To see yourself the way God sees you. You are loved, cherished and adored by the ONE TRUE KING!! You need love too!

Happy New Year to YOU and praying for a fruitful year in ALL areas of your life!

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Tis The Season For Thanksgiving

As we head into a season of joy and cheer, sometimes it becomes a hard pill for us women of angels to swallow. I get it. I’ve been there…..I am you….

Sometimes I scroll through social media and see family pictures of moms, dads and their children and my heart stings a little. This is when I close my eyes and count my blessings. And that’s what I want to encourage you to do today, count your blessings. When an ache comes out of nowhere, remember WHOSE you are and that God is FOR YOU!

I know it’s easier to think about what we don’t have as our hearts ache for the loss we have endured, but when we stop and look around we can see what we are so blessed to have. I also take time to thank God that my friends have such beautiful families. I don’t wish this pain or emptiness on anybody, and when the green monster starts to poke his ugly head in – I remember to be so thankful that my friends and loved ones might not have to face this empty feeling. As I see smiling faces of a family all together, I remember what a blessing children are and it helps the sting to be less piercing.

Thanksgiving is more than just passing the turkey around the table, but it’s truly a time to remember the blessings we DO have and share in the true joy of this season!

I pray this season that you are overwhelmed with thanksgiving and love!

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Exchange Your Weakness for His Strength

Weakness isn’t always a popular word. It brings a negative emotion for most of us. The world looks down at weakness and tells us that weakness is unpleasant and unfortunate. If you scroll through social media for just a couple of minutes, you will be bombarded with posts of power, strength and “bossing it up.” Nothing wrong with any of that (I think it’s great that we encourage and empower one another to be the best that we can be), BUT I want to encourage you to view weakness as something else today, something not so negative and something a little bit more empowering than we allow ourselves to see it as.  I want you to view weakness as an exchange for the strength of the Lord – something so beautiful that we can’t help but to long more for Him in the midst of weakness. Allow yourself to think of strength when you hear the word weakness.

When I start to experience sadness or feel my heart ache for the pregnancy losses I have experienced, I remember to lean into God for a peace that surpasses all understanding. I can’t do this on my own. I need a power stronger than myself in order to really embrace the healing that awaits me. Weakness isn’t bad, especially in the midst of grief. Weakness is a cry of our heart to the babies we have lost. It’s a sign of love for little hands and little feet we will never caress, hold or kiss. Our weakness releases His strength in our life and there is nothing more beautiful then knowing there is a Higher Power holding our hand as we embrace the pain from loss.

I don’t know what road you are walking today. I don’t know what stage of grief you are currently in. What I do know is that no matter where you are on your journey of loss and healing, God wants nothing more than to give you His strength so that you can make it through the hour, the day, the night, the week or even the whole year. His strength is waiting for you and it’s waiting with ARMS WIDE OPEN!

God longs to be in the pain WITH you. You are not alone.

 

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PCOS Awareness Month

In honor of PCOS Awareness Month, I thought I would bring some facts and encouragement to ya!

First, did you know that Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) is a prevalent, hormone-based condition among 1 in 10 women? PCOS is an imbalance in a woman’s hormone production. The “all over the place hormones” affect the body and cause numerous symptoms to manifest an onset of PCOS. Many women experience abnormal menstrual cycles, body-hair growth, skin issues, heart issues and sadly fertility and pregnancy issues.

Here are some facts about PCOS that can help you understand what is going  on in your body a bit better:

  1. PCOS is the most widespread endocrine disorder in the world today.
  2. Women with PCOS are more at risk if you have Type 1, Type 2, or gestational diabetes.
  3.  PCOS is hard to diagnose. There are many criteria physicians utilize when diagnosing PCOS. Irregular periods are often the first sign. However, this symptom alone doesn’t determine if you have the illness
  4. Early diagnosis is important with PCOS to lower the risk of cardiovascular complications.
  5. Because of delayed menstruation, a woman with PCOS can experience infertility due to abnormal ovulation.
  6. Women with PCOS experience a higher risk of developing gestational diabetes, preeclampsia, or the likelihood of having a miscarriage.
  7. Babies born to women with PCOS are prone to fetal macrosomia, which is when the newborn is significantly larger  than normal.
  8. PCOS can cause sleep apnea, depression, anxiety, and diabetes.
  9. Managing PCOS is best served by weight loss, a healthy diet and exercise.
  10. Studies have shown that women who smoke cigarettes have a higher level of androgens in their system. These are the pesky hormones responsible for most of the physical symptoms of PCOS, including excessive hair growth and acne.

I have personally dealt with PCOS since I was a teen. It hasn’t been fun. I have learned to manage symptoms with a healthy diet, lifestyle change and managing my stress levels. Finding a good support system has been key for me as well! I hope some of these facts can help you understand what your body is going through and can help navigate through PCOS!

I’m thankful that there is more research going on to help educate us all on this disorder! If you have been diagnosed with PCOS, please know you are NOT alone and it is NOT the end! YOU GOT THIS SISTER!!!!

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If you’ve come to this blog, it likely means you have suffered a pregnancy loss of some type. We are so sorry you have found yourself here, but hope the stories of life after loss can help you on your road to healing and recovery. Remember, we are all in this together!

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