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Look for Stars

A few weeks ago I was wandering around Marshall’s, not looking for anything in particular, when a display caught my eye. It was mainly full of Easter items, but right in the middle was this adorable little mug. It was the design that first caught my eye, but as I read the phrase on it, I realized it was perfect.

When it Rains

Look for Rainbows

When it’s Dark

Look for Stars

I showed it to my husband and said “I know I don’t need another coffee mug, but I have to get this – it is so Through the Heart.” And while it does relate so nicely to pregnancy loss, it’s also taken on new meaning lately.

I typically take a few days to write my blog posts as I like to allow time for the thoughts to come together, and this one is no different. But when I was about halfway through, the COVID-19 situation escalated and I no longer felt that what I was writing was relevant. And so, this post has been sitting, unfinished.

Times are hard right now for everyone. No matter who we are, our normal lives have been disrupted. We are engulfed in anxiety and uncertainty and for some, fear. Me? I struggle greatly with not knowing what’s coming ahead. I am a planner who overanalyzes everything and I feel restless with the inability to do so right now.

But I’m trying to remind myself to “look for the stars.” My family and friends are healthy and safe for the moment. My neighborhood has come together to help one another and socialize in new, socially distanced ways. People are reaching out to help others, whether it’s sharing supplies, supporting local businesses, sewing masks, or sharing activity ideas. And of course, so many people are selflessly fighting this thing on the front line.

And a very big star for me right now is that today, Through the Heart celebrates its 7th birthday. Statistically, the number of small nonprofits that fail within the first few years is staggering, but we’ve managed to defy those odds and keep plugging along. I am so grateful for everyone who has made it possible and I believe it is a testament to the critical need for pregnancy loss resources in this country.

During this difficult time, I encourage you to find your stars. Know that we are all in this together and there will be brighter days ahead.

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Karen Kelly

Hello! I'm Karen Kelly, co-founder of Through the Heart. My journey started in 2013 when I lost my daughter at 20 weeks into my pregnancy. I experienced 2 more losses along the way and have used this blog as an outlet for a lot of random thoughts and emotions. I hope that you find it helpful. Feel free to reach out at kkelly@throughtheheart.org if I can help in any way!



March 30, 2020 at 11:19 am

Love this!!!!

    Karen Kelly

    April 1, 2020 at 8:14 am

    Thanks Cryssie!

Christine Dombroski

April 1, 2020 at 7:17 am

I loved this!! It’s a nice message at such a strange time. Love you dear!!

    Karen Kelly

    April 1, 2020 at 8:14 am

    Love you too friend!

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