Self-Compassion in 2020
“BUT THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT IS LOVE, JOY, PEACE, LONG-SUFFERING, GENTLENESS, GOODNESS, FAITH,” GALATIANS 5:22-23
I’m not one to tell people what they should or shouldn’t do in life……but…..self-compassion should be one of your most important goals of 2020. It is something a lot of us do not understand, especially if you are a busy wife or busy mom. Life doesn’t stop for our grief and the holidays can leave us feeling exhausted and sometimes sad. I want you to take some time to show yourself some self-compassion.
What is self-compassion? It is simply loving yourself the way you would love a good friend during grief.
Simply ask yourself, “How would you treat a friend experiencing pregnancy loss?”
TREAT YOURSELF LIKE A GOOD FRIEND. It is easy for us to support and love another woman going through pregnancy loss, but when it comes to ourselves, we might be angry, bitter, and resentful at ourselves. Today, focus on giving yourself compassion the way you would give a good friend. Think about a time you helped a friend go through something difficult. How did you speak with them? Did you do something special for him or her? What would you have done for them if you were completely responsible for their well-being? And then flip that around to yourself. It’s so important for you to create a spirit of inner love.
Get in tune with how you are feeling about yourself in this very moment and be honest with yourself. Are you at peace? Are you angry? When you think about YOU, what thoughts come into your mind?
If you knew a friend that was feeling negative about herself, what would you tell her? What words would you say to affirm her?
Affirm and encourage, and above all, be honest with yourself!
Mark 12:31 tells us – “The second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself. No other commandment is greater than these.”
Loving yourself isn’t selfish – it’s important! When we truly love ourselves, we are leaning into God more, getting the healing and freedom we need and allowing ourselves to be the BEST version of ourself that we can be!
That is my prayer for you as you walk into a new year, to love yourself the way you do others. To see yourself the way God sees you. You are loved, cherished and adored by the ONE TRUE KING!! You need love too!
Happy New Year to YOU and praying for a fruitful year in ALL areas of your life!